We are at the beach in North Carolina, a long standing tradition; 31 years for Dan, and a chance to reconnect with family, both biologic and chosen.

It is early yet; we have only been here for 24 hours.  Our friends still feel a bit awkward with us.  They do not quite know how to interact with our triangulated family; to speak of Morgan or not?  Which action would bring the most pain?  There is no definite answer.  Both choices bring pain and so we perform a funny dance wandering around the place where our shiny golden girl would have been, lighting up the room.

We are indebted to those who love us and who loved Morgan, to enter into this sorrowful, uncomfortable place with us.  They help us find our way to a new normal, and new traditions.  Synthesis is tough. 

We want what we had, but it is no more.  We have been forced to move on; sometimes kicking and screaming, and occasionally with eager anticipation to move forward and make a life.  At least we           still have a life- unlike our precious Morgan.

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2 Responses to “Gil Harrington’s thoughts from July 5th, 2010”

  1. Ann H Tearle says:

    Good you are away for a bit–and with loving, supportive friends.

    I am on tenderhooks here hoping, praying for apprehension of the DNA match perp.

    Continued prayers, thoughts and love go out to you Dear Folks, Annie

  2. tcaros says:

    I was comparing the Fairfax abduction case with what little information they are sharing aside from the sketch. The woman in Fairfax was abducted at 9:30 PM while walking alone down Jermantown road. She was 26 at the time of the assualt. There’s similarities with age of victim and time of assault.

    The police should try and ask women to recall if they felt they were being followed by someone at this time of night. There may be more leads out there that weren’t reported because they just were lucky for some reason. There may have been some close calls between 2005 and 2009 that weren’t reported.

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