Our struggle with processing Morgan’s death is complicated by a duality of purpose. A murder creates this dichotomy. On one hand, we must submit and learn to accept the fact that Morgan is no more; her life is over. We must relinquish our hopes and dreams – surrender. At the same very time we must fight, stir ourselves to sound the alarm and amp up attention, concern and action because a killer is still on the loose and will most likely harm or kill again.
It is grueling and exhausting to struggle through the sludge and weight of our sadness and then try to overcome the established status quo that tries to sooth and minimize the vicious act that took Morgan’s life and poses continued danger.
There is an entrenched culture of violence and victimization against women and children in this country. It has been ignored and allowed for some time. The very language used to describe assault and abduction seeks to minimize the inherent savagery of the acts committed. In my verbiage, Morgan was not “missing” – she was snatched. Things did not get “out of hand” – Morgan was assaulted and raped. Morgan did not “pass away” – she was murdered and slaughtered.
Soothing tones and soft language are appropriate when the evil monster is make-believe in a child’s bedtime story; not when he walks in your town.
I am reminded here on the cusp of the 9/11 anniversary, that the buildings’ occupants were soothed and directed back to their offices, back to business as usual., back to their deaths.
Be alert! You cannot queue up like placid sheep when evil is loose in the land.
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